need opinions about this breakup

[wigglez508]

ok so ive been with my girl for a while now...1 year was next week...so anyway saturday we go out and have a good night..come home and hang out in bed...i look at my phone and a i have 2 missed calls and a voice mail..so i check it and its some random girl i dont even know inperson and havent talked to in over 6 months ...so my g/f ask who it was and instead of bein truthfull and tellin her i say it was my mom..mostly because i didnt want her to think that i just got busted gettin a call at her house and that i get them when im away from her..so i notice she sees somethins fishy...so the next day she asked my mom if she called and my mom says no.

so now she says im a liar and that i cant be trusted...yes i lied but it was because i didnt wanna have to try and explain why some girl was calling me..in my head i figured id just lie and that id just ignore it like it never happened

so do u girls think im wrong? do u think thats reason for a breakup?..as of now were on a "break"

[Miss Chievous]

ok so ive been with my girl for a while now...1 year was next week...so anyway saturday we go out and have a good night..come home and hang out in bed...i look at my phone and a i have 2 missed calls and a voice mail..so i check it and its some random girl i dont even know inperson and havent talked to in over 6 months ...so my g/f ask who it was and instead of bein truthfull and tellin her i say it was my mom..mostly because i didnt want her to think that i just got busted gettin a call at her house and that i get them when im away from her..so i notice she sees somethins fishy...so the next day she asked my mom if she called and my mom says no.

so now she says im a liar and that i cant be trusted...yes i lied but it was because i didnt wanna have to try and explain why some girl was calling me..in my head i figured id just lie and that id just ignore it like it never happened

so do u girls think im wrong? do u think thats reason for a breakup?..as of now were on a "break"

you should have just been truthful with her from the beginning. what did the voicemail say, anything incriminitating (sp?) ?? To me it seems a little dramatic to go on a "break" just because of this, are you sure there wasnt another issue going on between you two?

[AliKatR6]

ok so ive been with my girl for a while now...1 year was next week...so anyway saturday we go out and have a good night..come home and hang out in bed...i look at my phone and a i have 2 missed calls and a voice mail..so i check it and its some random girl i dont even know inperson and havent talked to in over 6 months ...so my g/f ask who it was and instead of bein truthfull and tellin her i say it was my mom..mostly because i didnt want her to think that i just got busted gettin a call at her house and that i get them when im away from her..so i notice she sees somethins fishy...so the next day she asked my mom if she called and my mom says no.

so now she says im a liar and that i cant be trusted...yes i lied but it was because i didnt wanna have to try and explain why some girl was calling me..in my head i figured id just lie and that id just ignore it like it never happened

so do u girls think im wrong? do u think thats reason for a breakup?..as of now were on a "break"

if you haven't done anything wrong - DON'T LIE. If you truely didn't know who or why some chick was calling you, Tell Her.

It looks 100 times more susupicious if you lie over something simple like that than had you just told her what was going on. So now in her mind if you will lie about something supossedly so simple then you will lie about anything. So no, I don't think she's wrong. She probably believed that if you had no real reason to lie and didn't have anything to hide, you would have told the truth, but you didn't and she caught you in that lie.

If my b/f used that same lie on me he'd be in serious hot water and while i may not kick him out right away, he'd seriously have to work his ass off to earn my trust back.

Honesty-it's your best policy.

[Kunty]

when the hell are you boys going to learn.. Lieing only makes you look bad. Like your hiding somthing. Like you did something wrong even if you didnt. And you can try and talk your way out of it but theres no way we are going to listen.
If you have to hide the fact that you are talking to another girl then my guess is that you shouldnt be talking to her period. My boyfriend has a lot of girls that hes friends with. I have met them all pretty much and hes honest. If he lied it wouldnt be good for his health. One way or another boys us girls always find out everything. Better off telling the truth.

[MikeM]

Damn thats a tough situation, and you had to think fast

[TongWoo]

Just tell her now... and tell her you panicked because it would've been the worst time to have to explain some shit like that. Tell her that is was stupid to be dishonest but, that is the truth...to give you another shot. That's kind of the only thing you can do is just be super honest with her and take the beating ight now....sucks, but that's how it is. There's no other way outta it. Good luck, bro.

[beckybBITCHES]

i see where you lied, spur of the moment problem....you didn't know what to say, so you said the first thing that came to mind. she won't see that, shes your girlfriend, so explain to her what happened. in the same situation i'm sure she'd do the same thing, well i would anyways. if we had just went out on our year anniversary or whatever and then i'm getting calls and voicemails from an old friend, that would totally ruin the night. i think your mistake was checking the voicemail and you should've had your phone off.

[Kunty]

i see where you lied, spur of the moment problem....you didn't know what to say, so you said the first thing that came to mind. she won't see that, shes your girlfriend, so explain to her what happened. in the same situation i'm sure she'd do the same thing, well i would anyways. if we had just went out on our year anniversary or whatever and then i'm getting calls and voicemails from an old friend, that would totally ruin the night. i think your mistake was checking the voicemail and you should've had your phone off.

but he shouldnt have had to "think fast".. he either should be able to have female friends.. or should be honest..

[beckybBITCHES]

but he shouldnt have had to "think fast".. he either should be able to have female friends.. or should be honest..
ok this is what i think

if i was out with someone celebrating something, and if some random guy called my phone who i never talked about before (i have guy friends, normally i'll talk aobut my guy friends to where he knows about them and won't get offended or whatever if they called) calls, i would spaz out and say something crazy at first, then i would explain it later.
this is a problem that can be fixed in my opinion.
i'm assuming this is a girl you've talked to either through a friend or the internet. if that's the case, just explain the situation to your girl and if she still doesn't believe you then you tried.

[Kunty]

ok this is what i think

if i was out with someone celebrating something, and if some random guy called my phone who i never talked about before (i have guy friends, normally i'll talk aobut my guy friends to where he knows about them and won't get offended or whatever if they called) calls, i would spaz out and say something crazy at first, then i would explain it later.
this is a problem that can be fixed in my opinion.
i'm assuming this is a girl you've talked to either through a friend or the internet. if that's the case, just explain the situation to your girl and if she still doesn't believe you then you tried.


some random myspace hoe :claps

[beckybBITCHES]

some random myspace hoe :claps
LOL! remember when i got someone in trouble. well not someone, but she went crazy on me :banghead:
she has jetblue miles she could use to come to kansas to kick my ass :fucktard

[Kunty]

LOL! remember when i got someone in trouble. well not someone, but she went crazy on me :banghead:
she has jetblue miles she could use to come to kansas to kick my ass :fucktard


HAHAHAHAHA!! Yup... aww your were the random myspace hoe! Too bad you werent just a random.. if she only knew :welcome

[beckybBITCHES]

HAHAHAHAHA!! Yup... aww your were the random myspace hoe! Too bad you werent just a random.. if she only knew :welcome
:wtf: :blabla: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

[MikeM]

LOL! remember when i got someone in trouble. well not someone, but she went crazy on me :banghead:
she has jetblue miles she could use to come to kansas to kick my ass :fucktard
lol you actually almost got me in trouble once too
it was my fault tho

[beckybBITCHES]

lol you actually almost got me in trouble once too
it was my fault tho
how?


ok so i got myself in trouble because of midget boy (but he was doing my taxes...so the calls were strickly finance reasons)
i called fraaaaaaank while he was in the car with the asian ..... but he started talking to me like i was a customer i guess.
and then you?

LOL

[Kunty]

i called fraaaaaaank while he was in the car with the asian ..... but he started talking to me like i was a customer i guess.

LOL

HAHAHAH YOU CALLED HER THE ASIAN>..... Thats awsome!!!

[beckybBITCHES]

HAHAHAH YOU CALLED HER THE ASIAN>..... Thats awsome!!!
:patriot:

[MikeM]

how?


ok so i got myself in trouble because of midget boy (but he was doing my taxes...so the calls were strickly finance reasons)
i called fraaaaaaank while he was in the car with the asian ..... but he started talking to me like i was a customer i guess.
and then you?

LOL
yeah, a long long time ago. It was when naked pics of you first appeared on the internet, I saved them, labeled the folder "kcbecky" and didnt think anythign of it. the next day my gf was on my computer and checked it out.

[beckybBITCHES]

yeah, a long long time ago. It was when naked pics of you first appeared on the internet, I saved them, labeled the folder "kcbecky" and didnt think anythign of it. the next day my gf was on my computer and checked it out.
she didn't think anything about the other girls or was i the only one you had a thing for at the time :bjspray

[MikeM]

she didn't think anything about the other girls or was i the only one you had a thing for at the time :bjspray
i didnt even have a thing for you then. you may have well been some chick off a porn site. i just forgot to move the folder to a less obvious spot

[beckybBITCHES]

i didnt even have a thing for you then. you may have well been some chick off a porn site. i just forgot to move the folder to a less obvious spot
well. i just dont' really know how to feel about this

[MikeM]

well. i just dont' really know how to feel about this
not one for you to feel guilty about, dont worry

[Kunty]

well. i just dont' really know how to feel about this


feel used becky.. or just be thankful that he had all that time to think about all the creepy .. i mean kinky things he wants to do to you .. like pee in your butt

[beckybBITCHES]

feel used becky.. or just be thankful that he had all that time to think about all the creepy .. i mean kinky things he wants to do to you .. like pee in your butt
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
oh yeah, i definately thought he was a weirdo then

[MikeM]

feel used becky.. or just be thankful that he had all that time to think about all the creepy .. i mean kinky things he wants to do to you .. like pee in your butt
i wasnt even thinking about her back then. I save EVERY(naked/semi) pic of any girl on the forums, reguardless if I know her or not.

[MikeM]

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
oh yeah, i definately thought he was a weirdo then
hahaha

i DIDNT think you were, then

[Kunty]

hahaha

i DIDNT think you were, then


now look what you have done to our sweet inoccent becky :bjspray

[MikeM]

now look what you have done to our sweet inoccent becky :bjspray
you should see what i did to the one before her

[Kunty]

you should see what i did to the one before her


i dont want to know ... thanks

[beckybBITCHES]

now look what you have done to our sweet inoccent becky :bjspray
i can still find my way back :welcome

[Kunty]

i can still find my way back :welcome


becky you were never innocent, it was a joke dear

[beckybBITCHES]

becky you were never innocent, it was a joke dear
i was too :1hifu:

[Kunty]

i was too :1hifu:


hi remember your high school nickname.. when were u inocent in like 3rd grade

[beckybBITCHES]

hi remember your high school nickname.. when were u inocent in like 3rd grade
well you little bitch :smileysui

[Kunty]

well you little bitch :smileysui


you loooooooooove me :hearteyed

[beckybBITCHES]

you loooooooooove me :hearteyed
eh at times. i'd really love you if you were a good girl and sent me some tomato mozz from little italy :woot

[The Head]

ok so ive been with my girl for a while now...1 year was next week...so anyway saturday we go out and have a good night..come home and hang out in bed...i look at my phone and a i have 2 missed calls and a voice mail..so i check it and its some random girl i dont even know inperson and havent talked to in over 6 months ...so my g/f ask who it was and instead of bein truthfull and tellin her i say it was my mom..mostly because i didnt want her to think that i just got busted gettin a call at her house and that i get them when im away from her..so i notice she sees somethins fishy...so the next day she asked my mom if she called and my mom says no.

so now she says im a liar and that i cant be trusted...yes i lied but it was because i didnt wanna have to try and explain why some girl was calling me..in my head i figured id just lie and that id just ignore it like it never happened

so do u girls think im wrong? do u think thats reason for a breakup?..as of now were on a "break"

Tell her to fucking deal with it...not your falult some hoe wants your nuts...and as long as you are not fucking someone else who calls you has nothing to do with her...she needs to keep her insecurities out of your fucking business!

[AliKatR6]

Tell her to fucking deal with it...not your falult some hoe wants your nuts...and as long as you are not fucking someone else who calls you has nothing to do with her...she needs to keep her insecurities out of your fucking business!
i don't think she's pissed about the phone call from a girl, just fact that lied.

Honesty and truth do have something to do with her since it effects the relationship. And it is true, if you will lie about something small, you will lie about something big like cheating. Trust is a tricky subject and shouldn't be taken for granted.

wow-you're attidute is soooo condusive to a functioning healthy relationship.

[MikeM]

And it is true, if you will lie about something small, you will lie about something big like cheating.
Negative.

Guys lie about small things constantly because we want our women to shut up and leave us alone about petty shit that isnt worth fighting about.

[AliKatR6]

Negative.

Guys lie about small things constantly because we want our women to shut up and leave us alone about petty shit that isnt worth fighting about.
well fine, some of you only lie about small shit to shut us up, but i've had too much experience with the latter.

[MikeM]

well fine, some of you only lie about small shit to shut us up, but i've had too much experience with the latter.
Im just saying theres a difference.

[AliKatR6]

Im just saying theres a difference.
I'll agree, I decided to make a broad generalization with out thinking first. You caught me.

[SickF*ck6969]

B J B..... :dong:

[Kunty]

B J B..... :dong:


too bad you didnt catch her well she was still in town

[beckybBITCHES]

B J B..... :dong:
:gayfight hey mikey

[wigglez508]

Negative.

Guys lie about small things constantly because we want our women to shut up and leave us alone about petty shit that isnt worth fighting about.
dude exactly...my man brain thinks " i dont wanna deal with drama for somethin i dont even have control over" so i lied tryin to make it dissapear...and the girls are right tho she isnt mad about the girl shes mad about the lie..either i need to stop lying or get better at it

so we'll c what happens...ive talked to her a few times today...but the seas arent exactly calm...damage has been done...hopefully it goes back to normal soon...im not a looker..i dont wanna have to deal with rejection from the singles scene

[beckybBITCHES]

dude exactly...my man brain thinks " i dont wanna deal with drama for somethin i dont even have control over" so i lied tryin to make it dissapear...and the girls are right tho she isnt mad about the girl shes mad about the lie..either i need to stop lying or get better at it

so we'll c what happens...ive talked to her a few times today...but the seas arent exactly calm...damage has been done...hopefully it goes back to normal soon...im not a looker..i dont wanna have to deal with rejection from the singles scene
what did you tell her today?
did you tell her it was out of your hands?

[wigglez508]

i told her the truth...that i lied and why..and that i was sorry for it...were just taking time appart...were still goin out to dinner friday as planned...i guess time will tell...i know this will change me...i know the truth works better...and i know that im not a good liar

[The Head]

i don't think she's pissed about the phone call from a girl, just fact that lied.

Honesty and truth do have something to do with her since it effects the relationship. And it is true, if you will lie about something small, you will lie about something big like cheating. Trust is a tricky subject and shouldn't be taken for granted.

wow-you're attidute is soooo condusive to a functioning healthy relationship.

Yes but if he wouldn't have lied she would have been pissed about the girl calling him...it's a no win situation in this scenario...better to try to avert the whole thing than deal with a catch 22 like that.

And actually most people find me quite plesant to be in a relationship with there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating. It is not my fault a girl kept dating the wrong type of guy causing her to lose trust in men because he fucked anything with a hole and a heartbeat. That is her issue that she needs to sort out not something a new boyfriend should have to deal with. Personally I would stand her up at dinner and go out with my friends instead. If you fold now she will probably pull this kind of shit the rest of the time you are together.

[Kunty]

Yes but if he wouldn't have lied she would have been pissed about the girl calling him...it's a no win situation in this scenario...better to try to avert the whole thing than deal with a catch 22 like that.

And actually most people find me quite plesant to be in a relationship with there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating. It is not my fault a girl kept dating the wrong type of guy causing her to lose trust in men because he fucked anything with a hole and a heartbeat. That is her issue that she needs to sort out not something a new boyfriend should have to deal with. Personally I would stand her up at dinner and go out with my friends instead. If you fold now she will probably pull this kind of shit the rest of the time you are together.

are you soft?

"there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating."'

The insecurity thing yes i will admit is annoying but the "invasion of privacy" what do you have to hide in relationships. What you want to be able to talk to as many little hoes as you want and not be bothered about it. Make sure you can always have a plan B just incase this realtionship doesnt work. When you get into a relationship you are suppose to be open and honest about everything. You shouldnt have to worry about invasion of privacy unless you are doing something you shouldnt be. Walking in on you while your takeing a shit is invasion of privacy. Wanting to know why a girl is calling you at 2am isnt. If my boyfriend ever said i was "invading is privacy " i would back hand him and walk out the door.

[AliKatR6]

Yes but if he wouldn't have lied she would have been pissed about the girl calling him...it's a no win situation in this scenario...better to try to avert the whole thing than deal with a catch 22 like that.

And actually most people find me quite plesant to be in a relationship with there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating. It is not my fault a girl kept dating the wrong type of guy causing her to lose trust in men because he fucked anything with a hole and a heartbeat. That is her issue that she needs to sort out not something a new boyfriend should have to deal with. Personally I would stand her up at dinner and go out with my friends instead. If you fold now she will probably pull this kind of shit the rest of the time you are together.
well we are both making assumptions on if she would or wouldn't be angry about the girl calling. I'm betting she wouldn't care about the girl calling.

personally i could care less if my b/f talks to girls and has female friends. granted if I knew for a fact that he was talking to girls that were trying to break us up or get him in bed, that shows no respect for me and the relationship, and he'd just come home to find his stuff on the front lawn and the locks changed. It's more effetive than yelling.

if you carry lack of trust into each relationship it's doomed from the get go...each person deserves their own chance until they proove to be untrustworthy. if you lie to me (little or not), you have damaged my trust in you. If you straight up tell me the truth, you'll be 100 times better off. I'm only going to be pissed off if you really did something to deserve it like cheat on me or steal from me. Granted, there are plenty of women who will bitch about everything so no matter what you're gonna be screwed, but hey if you don't like it don't date 'em.

However, I totally agree with you, insecurity is beyond annoying and i've ended relationships because of it before. Snooping is a huge no no, if you don't think you can trust that person, you shouldn't be dating them.

[AliKatR6]

are you soft?

"there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating."'

The insecurity thing yes i will admit is annoying but the "invasion of privacy" what do you have to hide in relationships. What you want to be able to talk to as many little hoes as you want and not be bothered about it. Make sure you can always have a plan B just incase this realtionship doesnt work. When you get into a relationship you are suppose to be open and honest about everything. You shouldnt have to worry about invasion of privacy unless you are doing something you shouldnt be. Walking in on you while your takeing a shit is invasion of privacy. Wanting to know why a girl is calling you at 2am isnt. If my boyfriend ever said i was "invading is privacy " i would back hand him and walk out the door.

2 am phone calls from strange girls hell no. i might understand if he traveled a lot like i did because i have quite a few friends (male and female) that forget which time zone i'm in, but if he asks whose calling, i'll tell him and he'd do the same for me.

I love your "back hand him" comment :rotfl:

[wigglez508]

she said she isnt mad about the call its the fact that i lied about it...i see where shes coming from...but she should see where im coming from too

she says that if i lied about some dumb hoe callin who knows what else id lie about...but my side is i dont wanna argue about a dumb call that i wouldnt even have answered in the 1st place..thats why i lied...i didnt wanna deal with it since it wasnt somethin i had control of...i didnt call her she called me

[The Head]

are you soft?

"there are only two things I don't tolerate in my signifigant others insecurity and invasion of privacy both are tacky and any girl that has problems with either is not worth dating."'

The insecurity thing yes i will admit is annoying but the "invasion of privacy" what do you have to hide in relationships. What you want to be able to talk to as many little hoes as you want and not be bothered about it. Make sure you can always have a plan B just incase this realtionship doesnt work. When you get into a relationship you are suppose to be open and honest about everything. You shouldnt have to worry about invasion of privacy unless you are doing something you shouldnt be. Walking in on you while your takeing a shit is invasion of privacy. Wanting to know why a girl is calling you at 2am isnt. If my boyfriend ever said i was "invading is privacy " i would back hand him and walk out the door.

My my my arn't we sharp as a mallet

No, invasion of privacy is a bitch going through your call records and text inbox to see whom you have been talking to, I travel constantly and having to account for every phone call or text is unacceptable...just because your guys want to have side skanks and shit dont take it out on us...I don't cheat on girls that I date...ever...if they are decent enough for me to see outside of a bedroom and actually look forward to going out with them then I have no reason to cheat...and if some bitch calls me at 2 am I don't care whats going on there is no way in hell I am going to answer it...but then again maybe its just the choice in the guys you fuck that gets you all riled in this particular subject area...

alikat I agree with you and if the question is asked I will always answer...

[Little D]

ok so ive been with my girl for a while now...1 year was next week...so anyway saturday we go out and have a good night..come home and hang out in bed...i look at my phone and a i have 2 missed calls and a voice mail..so i check it and its some random girl i dont even know inperson and havent talked to in over 6 months ...so my g/f ask who it was and instead of bein truthfull and tellin her i say it was my mom..mostly because i didnt want her to think that i just got busted gettin a call at her house and that i get them when im away from her..so i notice she sees somethins fishy...so the next day she asked my mom if she called and my mom says no.

so now she says im a liar and that i cant be trusted...yes i lied but it was because i didnt wanna have to try and explain why some girl was calling me..in my head i figured id just lie and that id just ignore it like it never happened

so do u girls think im wrong? do u think thats reason for a breakup?..as of now were on a "break"




ive had this happen to me before if you gotta think off the top of your head always blame a friend be like yea my friend gave her my number and she wont stop calling me and its pissing me off always works use this if you have to

[wigglez508]

actually i said fuck it and started talkin to some other girl...if shes gonna be dumb like this im gettin out early

im on a quest to catch the ninja

[MikeM]

actually i said fuck it and started talkin to some other girl...if shes gonna be dumb like this im gettin out early

im on a quest to catch the ninja
now might be a good time to fuck that girl who called you
hate fuck her

[wigglez508]

beleive me i jotted it down in my to do list

[WOODMAN]

You did what you thought you should do .Then you told the truth which ia a little harder after lyin and beein caught at it.So if she doesn't take you back then her loos not yours it must have not been ment 2 b everything happens 4 a reason man!!!ABOUT THOSE NAKED PICTURES (SOMEONE P.M. SOME 2 ME I DIDN'T SEE ANY ?)