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Kunty
02-23-2005, 12:58 AM
My friend has an issue.....
For say guy meets girl both are in a relationship, both unhappy ( well one is other plays along) and it goes on and on and on ... then stand back lets say umm 6 months later and wonder hmm when is he gonna end it...
mean while the other girl (who has to be one of the STUPIDEST FUCKIUNG PEOPLE TO WALK THE FACE OF THE EARTH, MAY AS WELL JUST COMITT SUICIDE B/C IS LOVED FOR NOTHING BUT THERE COCK SUCKIN ABITITES AND IS JUST A USLESS PEICE OF LIFE TAKING AWAY FROMT HE OXYGEN SUPPLY ON THIS PLANET) has it all right in front of there face and it dumb to relize it... hmm that gotta suck huh..
so anyways the story goes on you hear for months that the said guy is gonna deal with it make her go away and yet you see no results..
Do you ...
A.. Tell the "stupid gril" whats going on
B. Walk away and never trun back
C play it out and see what happens
D A&B and ruin a few lives
personally I am voteing for D
:howudo:
D, It aint worth your "friends" time to try and work it out
Droptop
02-23-2005, 01:15 AM
Kunty does this story stem from a real life problem that you know someone?
Just a little curious....
inolen
02-23-2005, 01:17 AM
E. Drop him and get with me. :nudge:
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:19 AM
Kunty does this story stem from a real life problem that you know someone?
Just a little curious....
lets just say a friend of mine has been dealin with this shit for too damn long, she wanted some opinions so i am gathering them for her :check:
would you like me to tell you more
Droptop
02-23-2005, 01:26 AM
lets just say a friend of mine has been dealin with this shit for too damn long, she wanted some opinions so i am gathering them for her :check:
would you like me to tell you more
You know what kunty and it is just the plain harsh realization that maybe she is startung to get fed up with it... But alot of girls and guys too get use to a way of life with someone.. Be it good or bad... And it takes alot for people to finally get fed up with something... They say they wanna walk away, but in all honesty they will stay... or they will go back... Im not being mean at all by this reply. But if she was ready to end it.. she would...
She would just walk away and say fuck it no matter what the consequences were... Maybe this is the begining by her coming out and asking for help... I have seen this many of times... just stay by her side.. it wil be hard.. it will sound like a broken record and you will be like why doesnt she just leave him... but sooner or later she will it takes time... and lessons to be learned...
How many times did our parents tell us not to do something and we still did it.. we hard to learn the hard way.. thats usually how relationships are too...
lets just say a friend of mine has been dealin with this shit for too damn long, she wanted some opinions so i am gathering them for her :check:
would you like me to tell you more
Sure, give her my # and let me set her straight. I won't be rude, nor will I be an asshole, but I WILL tell it like it is from a GUYS point of view and I won't sugar coat anything. Ask ANYONE on this site or other sites for that matter and they will ALL tell you that I give GREAT advise as well as having lived through "real life" things that no one on here ever will. I'm not trying to sound like "Dr. Phil" even though my real name is Phil, but I am just better at giving advise then taking it and even worse, I don't even take my own and it always seems to work for everyone else. BTW Kunty, how ya been ?
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:29 AM
You know what kunty and it is just the plain harsh realization that maybe she is startung to get fed up with it... But alot of girls and guys too get use to a way of life with someone.. Be it good or bad... And it takes alot for people to finally get fed up with something... They say they wanna walk away, but in all honesty they will stay... or they will go back... Im not being mean at all by this reply. But if she was ready to end it.. she would...
She would just walk away and say fuck it no matter what the consequences were... Maybe this is the begining by her coming out and asking for help... I have seen this many of times... just stay by her side.. it wil be hard.. it will sound like a broken record and you will be like why doesnt she just leave him... but sooner or later she will it takes time... and lessons to be learned...
How many times did our parents tell us not to do something and we still did it.. we hard to learn the hard way.. thats usually how relationships are too...
so true, you let shit slide..
weither its when they say they are gonna show up and dont, make plans and let ya down...shes been through it all before, but when you find someone that is like your best friend and you can talk to them about anything it makes it harder...we have all been there you keep hopeing it will change and it never does...
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:31 AM
Sure, give her my # and let me set her straight. I won't be rude, nor will I be an asshole, but I WILL tell it like it is from a GUYS point of view and I won't sugar coat anything. Ask ANYONE on this site or other sites for that matter and they will ALL tell you that I give GREAT advise as well as having lived through "real life" things that no one on here ever will. I'm not trying to sound like "Dr. Phil" even though my real name is Phil, but I am just better at giving advise then taking it and even worse, I don't even take my own and it always seems to work for everyone else. BTW Kunty, how ya been ?
I'm fine thanks
Ya I am the same way you can give advise all day long but its takeing your own thats hard
Droptop
02-23-2005, 01:35 AM
so true, you let shit slide..
weither its when they say they are gonna show up and dont, make plans and let ya down...shes been through it all before, but when you find someone that is like your best friend and you can talk to them about anything it makes it harder...we have all been there you keep hopeing it will change and it never does...
True True ...
People are the way they are.. People dont change... they have been raised and have led a certain way of life... for a long time.. things dont change over night... I know the feelings your girl is going through and like i said they get use to them and think it is normal and let things slide..
It is up to your girl to make her mind up and be strong.... she will need to make up some ground rules and stick by them no matter how hard it is.... I know about the days of being so sick to you stomach and not being able to eat and not being able to sleep at night..
But you know what you go through a little bit more hell when you end it... cause you know your life will be happy one day again... Like it was before you meet that person... but if you didnt end it... then you just remain miserable longer and longer and maybe forever...
Like i said I am no counsler but I have lived a full life...
Here is an example of my life and I have made rules... Im not trying to bring my life into this.. but maybe this could help your girl...
http://www.stuntusa.com/forums/showthread.php?t=2889
Hope I could be some help.... Best of luck to your girl... Just be there for her... cause when she gets rid of that guy... You will need to be by her side almost 24/7 for her to get through it!!!
D-WRECK
02-23-2005, 01:41 AM
:eek:
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:42 AM
True True ...
People are the way they are.. People dont change... they have been raised and have led a certain way of life... for a long time.. things dont change over night... I know the feelings your girl is going through and like i said they get use to them and think it is normal and let things slide..
It is up to your girl to make her mind up and be strong.... she will need to make up some ground rules and stick by them no matter how hard it is.... I know about the days of being so sick to you stomach and not being able to eat and not being able to sleep at night..
But you know what you go through a little bit more hell when you end it... cause you know your life will be happy one day again... Like it was before you meet that person... but if you didnt end it... then you just remain miserable longer and longer and maybe forever...
Like i said I am no counsler but I have lived a full life...
Here is an example of my life and I have made rules... Im not trying to bring my life into this.. but maybe this could help your girl...
http://www.stuntusa.com/forums/showthread.php?t=2889
Hope I could be some help.... Best of luck to your girl... Just be there for her... cause when she gets rid of that guy... You will need to be by her side almost 24/7 for her to get through it!!!
Ya I just know this is the first guy she has really been able to be her self around , whos into the same things she is, who is cool with her having her own fridns and her own life.. But why wouldnt he be, when she goes out he can go bang his girlfriend
Droptop
02-23-2005, 01:46 AM
Ya I just know this is the first guy she has really been able to be her self around , whos into the same things she is, who is cool with her having her own fridns and her own life.. But why wouldnt he be, when she goes out he can go bang his girlfriend
I dunno.. I dont see both sides... I gave all the advice I can give... But you know her better than all of us.. but she is your friend so your advice would be biased but not in bad way.. You just want to see your friend happy... And that is a good thing.. It is hard to come by true friends in this world now adays... if you think them 2 should be together then help them both. If not then help your friend out of the relationship...
You would know best... Just use your best judgment.. try not to be biased... I am sure it will work out for the best...
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:48 AM
I dunno.. I dont see both sides... I gave all the advice I can give... But you know her better than all of us.. but she is your friend so your advice would be biased but not in bad way.. You just want to see your friend happy... And that is a good thing.. It is hard to come by true friends in this world now adays... if you think them 2 should be together then help them both. If not then help your friend out of the relationship...
You would know best... Just use your best judgment.. try not to be biased... I am sure it will work out for the best...
I just hope he remembers what i told him in the begining, that i WILL ruin his life if he fucks with her... I find some kinda sick pleasure in that ChairBeat
Kunty
02-23-2005, 01:52 AM
The thing thats hard too is that when this all started not to far into it she wanted to stop it and just be friends, at the time she was in a relationship too, they met in kinda a fucked up way.. but that lasted about a whole 24 hours... I see how well they get along , same humor , same aditude, it just sucks he can make up his mind with wtf he wants to do , and in the mean time its only making it harder every day for her... He always has an excuse why he cant leave her.. I just dont think he wants to
Droptop
02-23-2005, 01:57 AM
The thing thats hard too is that when this all started not to far into it she wanted to stop it and just be friends, at the time she was in a relationship too, they met in kinda a fucked up way.. but that lasted about a whole 24 hours... I see how well they get along , same humor , same aditude, it just sucks he can make up his mind with wtf he wants to do , and in the mean time its only making it harder every day for her... He always has an excuse why he cant leave her.. I just dont think he wants to
There is no excuse why someone cant leave anyone... The honest to gods truth is that they dont want to or arent ready too... That is it....
Like I said I dont know the whole situation... But anyone can leave anything they dont want to be a part of... Look I had a kid... And I still left... I had to make sacrafices afterwards.. But it was all well worth it.. I am happy now.. Just like I used to be before the bad relationship!!!
Kunty
02-23-2005, 02:01 AM
There is no excuse why someone cant leave anyone... The honest to gods truth is that they dont want to or arent ready too... That is it....
Like I said I dont know the whole situation... But anyone can leave anything they dont want to be a part of... Look I had a kid... And I still left... I had to make sacrafices afterwards.. But it was all well worth it.. I am happy now.. Just like I used to be before the bad relationship!!!
I am the queen of bad relationships....
but I just think hes full of shit, and the thing is he never wants to talk about it which makes it even more shady
but i dont understand how you could be cheatin on someone for 6 months and the stupid cunt rag cant figure it out
Droptop
02-23-2005, 02:08 AM
I am the queen of bad relationships....
but I just think hes full of shit, and the thing is he never wants to talk about it which makes it even more shady
but i dont understand how you could be cheatin on someone for 6 months and the stupid cunt rag cant figure it out
Wow... But lets go over this... If he is cheating on his girlfriend .... ANd I am sure he tells her he cares about her, cause he doesnt leave her....and continues to cheat on her...
Why wouldnt he do the same thing to your girl... lets say he did leave his present girlfriend and got with your friend.. what would stop him from soing that to her..
Is that really the kind of doubts.. she wants in her head... Its Reality..
Smartest thing would be for her to move on... Be single or find another guy who will devote time to just her!!!
And to be honest and not be mean to your girl but she should have stopped or never gotten involved with a guy who had a girlfriend... Cause imagine how hurt that girls going to feel inside once she finds out... And that girl is a human too with feelings!!!
Kunty
02-23-2005, 02:11 AM
Wow... But lets go over this... If he is cheating on his girlfriend .... ANd I am sure he tells her he cares about her, cause he doesnt leave her....and continues to cheat on her...
Why wouldnt he do the same thing to your girl... lets say he did leave his present girlfriend and got with your friend.. what would stop him from soing that to her..
Is that really the kind of doubts.. she wants in her head... Its Reality..
Smartest thing would be for her to move on... Be single or find another guy who will devote time to just her!!!
And to be honest and not be mean to your girl but she should have stopped or never gotten involved with a guy who had a girlfriend... Cause imagine how hurt that girls going to feel inside once she finds out... And that girl is a human too with feelings!!!
Agreed..
She goes back and forth with the idea of tellin the other girl just b/c she would want to know if it was her...But all the BS that he has fed her that my friend knows about , if the girl doesnt know shes fuckin retarded ...
And vaild point , at one time ya it just would have taken time to build trust yada yada yada but at this point I just feel like they could never have it
Droptop
02-23-2005, 02:14 AM
Agreed..
She goes back and forth with the idea of tellin the other girl just b/c she would want to know if it was her...But all the BS that he has fed her that my friend knows about , if the girl doesnt know shes fuckin retarded ...
And vaild point , at one time ya it just would have taken time to build trust yada yada yada but at this point I just feel like they could never have it
Your so right.. They would never be able to trust each other..
To be honest you will have to probably just sit back and watch it play out... It is going to be one big nightmare... Theres no stopping it.. Now that all the facts are on the table... This whole situation is unhealthy and will never work..
Your not going to be able to change anything.. It will be an ugly situation till it comes to a complete end... That could take awhile... Just be by your friends side... no matter how hard it is or who is right or wrong!!!
Kunty
02-23-2005, 02:17 AM
Your so right.. They would never be able to trust each other..
To be honest you will have to probably just sit back and watch it play out... It is going to be one big nightmare... Theres no stopping it.. Now that all the facts are on the table... This whole situation is unhealthy and will never work..
Your not going to be able to change anything.. It will be an ugly situation till it comes to a complete end... That could take awhile... Just be by your friends side... no matter how hard it is or who is right or wrong!!!
well i think she has pretty much laid it all out on the table, so we'll just have to see what happens next...
But i'm sure it will be the same old lines and the same old shit she hears everytime
Droptop
02-23-2005, 02:19 AM
well i think she has pretty much laid it all out on the table, so we'll just have to see what happens next...
But i'm sure it will be the same old lines and the same old shit she hears everytime
I hope I was able to help tonight...
I honestly feel more for you kunty cause your the one that has to hear all the complaing and bitching...
If you need to talk more I am here!!!
Kunty
02-23-2005, 02:20 AM
I hope I was able to help tonight...
I honestly feel more for you kunty cause your the one that has to hear all the complaing and bitching...
If you need to talk more I am here!!!
thanks kiddo
I'll keep ya posted
warbuk
02-23-2005, 10:15 AM
so the girl has met a guy that has a girlfriend. and the girlfriend is a retard cause she hasn't figured out he's cheating. so if he dumps her for your friend, then one day your friend will to be the retard. it's not a matter of IF he will cheat, it's a matter of WHEN. sorry but the truth hurts and the truth will set you free. he's not the only one out there thats compatible with her. she needs to move on and let him and his girlfriend fuck each other over. life's to short be happy.
BeckyB
02-23-2005, 10:27 AM
i go with d.....if he was really going to leave this stupid girl, he would've already done it.....actually........either just walk away and say fuck it.....just not worth it....i wish your friend the best :shy:
damthman
02-23-2005, 10:54 AM
D all the way then give me your FRIENDS number and i will take her to dinner
Foxxxy
02-23-2005, 11:17 AM
okay hunnie...from what i member of u readin to me last nigh ( i don't feel like going back and reading)
tell the dumb bitch whats up and ask how she can be so fuckin stupid as not to see what he is doing....hello...is it that hard to figure out that if ur man isn't with you and is no where to be found...he's 9 times outta ten balls deep in some other bitch.
but just tell ur friend to hang in there....that there are more guys out there that arn't assholes....and that she will find love someday where she would least expect it....also tell her to stay stong cuz emtional pain is the worse kinda pain anyone ever has to deal with...
STUDROCK
02-23-2005, 11:30 AM
My friend has an issue.....
For say guy meets girl both are in a relationship, both unhappy ( well one is other plays along) and it goes on and on and on ... then stand back lets say umm 6 months later and wonder hmm when is he gonna end it...
mean while the other girl (who has to be one of the STUPIDEST FUCKIUNG PEOPLE TO WALK THE FACE OF THE EARTH, MAY AS WELL JUST COMITT SUICIDE B/C IS LOVED FOR NOTHING BUT THERE COCK SUCKIN ABITITES AND IS JUST A USLESS PEICE OF LIFE TAKING AWAY FROMT HE OXYGEN SUPPLY ON THIS PLANET) has it all right in front of there face and it dumb to relize it... hmm that gotta suck huh..
so anyways the story goes on you hear for months that the said guy is gonna deal with it make her go away and yet you see no results..
Do you ...
A.. Tell the "stupid gril" whats going on
B. Walk away and never trun back
C play it out and see what happens
D A&B and ruin a few lives
personally I am voteing for D
:howudo:I think you should give me the number of the girl with the cock sucking skills. sounds like a keeper to me
STUDROCK
02-23-2005, 11:31 AM
okay hunnie...from what i member of u readin to me last nigh ( i don't feel like going back and reading)
tell the dumb bitch whats up and ask how she can be so fuckin stupid as not to see what he is doing....hello...is it that hard to figure out that if ur man isn't with you and is no where to be found...he's 9 times outta ten balls deep in some other bitch.
but just tell ur friend to hang in there....that there are more guys out there that arn't assholes....and that she will find love someday where she would least expect it....also tell her to stay stong cuz emtional pain is the worse kinda pain anyone ever has to deal with...
Dont player hate why does everyone have to get involved in someones game i say let it be and let my man work his game.
f4igIRlie
02-23-2005, 11:33 AM
God, ide end it, for crying out loud! I know pple like that, cant be w/ out each other, but hate each other while 2gether. What a waste of time and space.