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livia24
07-24-2004, 10:23 PM
ok....this is bad i am only 15 and i have been cheated on twice this year....and both of the said the same thing....well its your own fault.... your the one cheated on me dick head....question why should i be the one to be blaimed here....
Beatzz
07-24-2004, 10:35 PM
damn.. harsh
BeckyB
07-24-2004, 11:04 PM
my brother is 15 and i could see him telling some girl that, he's stupid. but it's not your fault at all, if they wanted to be with someone else or wasn't happy with you then they should've broken up with you first. don't let any guy tell you that it's your fault...that annoys me so much.
Beatzz
07-24-2004, 11:29 PM
becky and lil sis are good at this stuff :D
GregBest
07-25-2004, 02:37 AM
define cheated on? Are you married and your husband is working with his secretary too much? are you dating and he is kissing someone else? are you in an exclusive relationship, but you are flirting with others? we need GRAPHIC DETAILS cuz this shtuff beats reality TV!!!! If men,... er, excuse me, boys are not man enough to face up to being stupid, then move on and find someone to respect you. are you doing ANYTHING that makes them blame you like flirting with others or more? hmmmm... so, if you cheated on them... their best recourse is to cheat on you back?? Isn't that like "I know you are but what am I I know you are but what am I" mantality?? You're young and have plenty of time to find looser men that can't take responsibilty for acting like a man, and try to blame someone else for it. Sometimes, women aren't helping with that either, but REALLY, it comes down to the man to be THE MAN. Know what I am saying? Maybe not. You'll find one and then you will understand. :)
becky and lil sis are good at this stuff :D
and you aren't, so why are you replying?
Beatzz
07-25-2004, 04:07 AM
its a post whore thing :D
Cdawg02
07-25-2004, 11:39 AM
ok....this is bad i am only 15 and i have been cheated on twice this year....and both of the said the same thing....well its your own fault.... your the one cheated on me dick head....question why should i be the one to be blaimed here....
Define cheating in this case...what did they do with girl? At 15, why are you in a relationship serious enough to care if someone is cheating on you? Trust me you will have plenty of time as the years go by to worry about guys!
As for them telling you that it's your fault...it's definitely not even if you aren't having sex with them (unless your being a total dick tease, then that ain't even right). How old are these guys you're dating? If they are the same age, most guys at that age don't want to be tied down already (this will go on the rest of your life btw)
Risingevil
07-25-2004, 08:00 PM
I think I need more information on the situation before I can give you accurate advice.
livia24
07-25-2004, 10:53 PM
ok the first guy that i dated was 16 and the second guy i dated was going to be 17....and i didnt really flirt...or fool around with other guys because..the fear of him finding out and stuff like that.....and the first one was making out with my best friend in front of my house...and the second one...i dated for awhile...but kinda got mad cuz i wouldnt have sex with him yet...and he got mad and had sex with one of my other friends and they both blaimed it on me.... :(
BeckyB
07-25-2004, 11:34 PM
ok the first guy that i dated was 16 and the second guy i dated was going to be 17....and i didnt really flirt...or fool around with other guys because..the fear of him finding out and stuff like that.....and the first one was making out with my best friend in front of my house...and the second one...i dated for awhile...but kinda got mad cuz i wouldnt have sex with him yet...and he got mad and had sex with one of my other friends and they both blaimed it on me.... :(
if thats the case, it's not your fault at all. cheating is cheating bottom line. and i would really get some new friends, cause if they were your friends they wouldn't have done that or even thought about it. that's bs on both ends.
livia24
07-25-2004, 11:38 PM
yeah me and my so called best friend at the time aren't really friends at all anymore...we talk everyonce in awhile...and my other friend i don't talk to her at all!!
BeckyB
07-25-2004, 11:43 PM
yeah me and my so called best friend at the time aren't really friends at all anymore...we talk everyonce in awhile...and my other friend i don't talk to her at all!!
i wouldn't talk to either one of them at all. it's one thing if someone is messing with your boyfriend and doesn't know that he has a girlfriend. but if they know, and on top of it all are your 'friends' then you probaly shouldn't associate yourself with either one. that will make people thank they can walk all over you cause it's like you're saying it's okay that you kissed or had sex with my boyfriend but since me and him aren't together anymore i'll still talk to you. you never know if they'll try and do it again.
livia24
07-25-2004, 11:49 PM
yeah that does make sence and i never really thought about it...yeah alot of my friends are kinda bitchy like that...and i know they would both do it again...so...yeah maybe i shouldn't be friends with them anymore
karenosofast
07-26-2004, 12:04 AM
You are young girl....you have a lot ahead of you to learn about relationships..focus on your school... :cool:
Risingevil
07-26-2004, 12:04 AM
yeah that does make sence and i never really thought about it...yeah alot of my friends are kinda bitchy like that...and i know they would both do it again...so...yeah maybe i shouldn't be friends with them anymore
Ahhhhh, to be young again. J/k I guess there not really your friends anyways.
JONESER
07-26-2004, 12:10 AM
Girlie Girl....
YOUR HANGIN' WITH THE WRONG CROWD!!!!!!
Tell the guy's and your "friends" to go F U C K themselves!!!!
My lady pulled that shit with more than one of my friends, one was like a brother to me!
I thought I done something wrong...NOPE!
She's a hoe and my "friends" must have forgot about "bro's before hoes"!
Good luck and keep ya head up! There are nice guy's out there....
LiL SiS
07-26-2004, 12:18 AM
ok the first guy that i dated was 16 and the second guy i dated was going to be 17....and i didnt really flirt...or fool around with other guys because..the fear of him finding out and stuff like that.....and the first one was making out with my best friend in front of my house...and the second one...i dated for awhile...but kinda got mad cuz i wouldnt have sex with him yet...and he got mad and had sex with one of my other friends and they both blaimed it on me.... :(
I don't even know what to say about the whole best friend issue...but the first thing that comes to mind is BEAT DOWN! And don't get me wrong that falls into the being disrespected catagory...not the fighting over a man category.
Now as harsh as this sounds you are too young to think that you are going to be in an everlasting faithful relationship. I'm grown and still can't find that. I don't know if you are sexing...but don't. Its too early...damn I sound like my mom.
The whole boyfriend thing is coo...but...you have to almost expect things like that to happen... Not because its your fault but just because thats the way shit is.
As far as him telling you that it was your fault that is just a lame ass excuse. He was trying to turn the tables and change the focus point of the issue from him to you. Its a guilt trip kinda thing. Guys are good at that. You should have laughed in his face. Then he wouldn't have known what to do. Making you feel guilty is their way of not being able to admit fault of their own.
Just future advice in situations like that...trust me when I tell you there will be more...don't ever let them know that you are pissed. When a guy fucks up like that it puts you one up. You will always be one up. Even if you decide to stay together it gives you an edge. Don't get me wrong...its not a weapon...if you decide to stay together its not something you can keep bringing up and throwing in his face or the relationship will never work but you and him will both remember it in the back of your heads and you will always be "better" than he is.
Letting him know your pissed almost shows weakness. Shrug walk away and then know that if he could dog you like that he didn't deserve you in the first place. It will never get easier because no matter how old you get there will always be dog ass dudes out here. But it will get easier weeding out the good ones from the bad.
gixxer_mark
07-26-2004, 10:42 AM
ok the first guy that i dated was 16 and the second guy i dated was going to be 17....and i didnt really flirt...or fool around with other guys because..the fear of him finding out and stuff like that.....and the first one was making out with my best friend in front of my house...and the second one...i dated for awhile...but kinda got mad cuz i wouldnt have sex with him yet...and he got mad and had sex with one of my other friends and they both blaimed it on me.... :(
WTF.... you have got to be shitting me.... when you are 15 there is no cheating or any of that crap, cheating doesn't exist untill there is a declaration that you two are exclusive and wanna' be with each other only.... that's usually after some sex and a couple of "baby i love you and don't wanna' be with no one else"... you are too young to be worried about that stuff....
livia24
07-26-2004, 03:43 PM
I don't know if you are sexing...but don't. Its too early...damn I sound like my mom
no i am not having sex yet...
GregBest
07-26-2004, 06:25 PM
....so....um......
....can I have your ex best friend's telephone number??
LiL SiS
07-26-2004, 09:04 PM
no i am not having sex yet...
Good there is too much extra stuff that comes with it. Its more emotional for young ladies than it is for young men and they will never understand it. You will be ok. Focus on yourself. Get good grades. Have fun spoiling yourself. It will all pay off in the long run.
I'm 19, have a nice car that I paid for myself, a nice bike that I paid for myself, and there is a whole lot more I want out of life before I decide to settle down. Some things are over rated. You are only young once so take advantage of it. Don't grow up to fast or you will miss out on a lot. Trust me when I tell you that.
BeckyB
07-26-2004, 09:09 PM
Don't grow up to fast or you will miss out on a lot. Trust me when I tell you that.
that's very true
looks like becky and lil sis took care of this one, great advice girls! and yeah livia you dont need friends like that you kinda remind me of one of my friends down here shes gotten cheated on twice and i think some dude was tryin to hook up with her and he already had a gf, good thing she found out...
Cdawg02
07-27-2004, 02:54 PM
ur so called friends arent ppl u would want to have around in 4 years...think about that after you think someone is ur friend...u got plenty of time for men in the future, focus on ur education!!!!!! guys say bro before hoes....we say chics before dicks
livia24
07-27-2004, 03:02 PM
ok i know what everyone is saying...like not to get into a serious relationship ... but its kinda hard to not want to when you go out and your friend grads there boyfriend along and you see them happy with them you just wanna be happy yourself
Cdawg02
07-27-2004, 03:13 PM
ok i know what everyone is saying...like not to get into a serious relationship ... but its kinda hard to not want to when you go out and your friend grads there boyfriend along and you see them happy with them you just wanna be happy yourself
not sayin don't date at all, just know that more often than not that relationship is going to last that long...don't get so wrapped up in some guy that him cheating makes you feel the same way again...be available but not too available
livia24
07-27-2004, 03:29 PM
don't get so wrapped up in some guy that him cheating makes you feel the same way again
ok that kinda confused me there.... :confused:
Cdawg02
07-27-2004, 03:31 PM
ok that kinda confused me there.... :confused:
the same way...as in how u felt when u started this thread
livia24
07-27-2004, 03:38 PM
oh ic...sorry i get it now
eeegghhh...cheating is under-rated! ;)
livia24
07-27-2004, 09:19 PM
ok i have another question the first guy that cheated on me..ok he is my friend now and we talk all the time..because we had been friends before we went out..and now we are better friends then we were before like and we hang out and stuff....but we just mainly talk...is there something wrong with that... :confused:
BeckyB
07-27-2004, 10:03 PM
ok i have another question the first guy that cheated on me..ok he is my friend now and we talk all the time..because we had been friends before we went out..and now we are better friends then we were before like and we hang out and stuff....but we just mainly talk...is there something wrong with that... :confused:
i don't think so, i think it's actually great that you can be friends with him still, but i would just watch out for getting burned again. you can be friends with your girlfriends or whoever you want to, but like i said before they may do it again....just watch out.
JONESER
07-27-2004, 10:04 PM
ok i have another question the first guy that cheated on me..ok he is my friend now and we talk all the time..because we had been friends before we went out..and now we are better friends then we were before like and we hang out and stuff....but we just mainly talk...is there something wrong with that... :confused:
Just watch him...He might be playin' it cool to get on your good side and then try to make a move..
livia24
07-27-2004, 10:31 PM
i dont think i would date him again even if he put a move on me or was trying as hard as he could..i wouldnt date him again!!
LiL SiS
07-27-2004, 10:52 PM
ok i know what everyone is saying...like not to get into a serious relationship ... but its kinda hard to not want to when you go out and your friend grads there boyfriend along and you see them happy with them you just wanna be happy yourself
I understand exactly what you are saying...
BeckyB
07-27-2004, 11:36 PM
i didn't see your post about your friends having boyfriends....i'm pretty much the only single one out off all my friends and yes there are times i hate it cause they all seem happy together, but they have fights over stupid shit and that just makes me happy that i'm not in a relationship.
Cdawg02
07-28-2004, 08:22 AM
I think its great that you can still be friends with the first guy...I'm friend with most of the guys i had serious relationship with before, it's good to have someone around who knows you so well and can understand you...it's not bad that you are still friends with him, never underestimate him though...
MikeM
07-28-2004, 04:03 PM
ok....this is bad i am only 15 and i have been cheated on twice this year....and both of the said the same thing....well its your own fault.... your the one cheated on me dick head....question why should i be the one to be blaimed here....
ok the first guy that i dated was 16 and the second guy i dated was going to be 17....and i didnt really flirt...or fool around with other guys because..the fear of him finding out and stuff like that.....and the first one was making out with my best friend in front of my house...and the second one...i dated for awhile...but kinda got mad cuz i wouldnt have sex with him yet...and he got mad and had sex with one of my other friends and they both blaimed it on me.... :(
I dont know why nobody's said so yet, but the problem seems fairly obvious. It seems to me that you dont put out enough. Am I right?
Risingevil
07-28-2004, 04:38 PM
hell no, wait for the responses to roll in now.... lol
BeckyB
07-28-2004, 04:47 PM
I dont know why nobody's said so yet, but the problem seems fairly obvious. It seems to me that you dont put out enough. Am I right?
she's too young, and if they can't accept that then maybe they should've broken up with her, not fuck around with her friends.
come on...Im all about free love....get r done no matter where it comes from! :D
Cdawg02
07-28-2004, 07:22 PM
I dont know why nobody's said so yet, but the problem seems fairly obvious. It seems to me that you dont put out enough. Am I right?
she's obviously got a lil self-respect for herself, which is rare to find in girls her age now
LiL SiS
07-28-2004, 08:02 PM
I dont know why nobody's said so yet, but the problem seems fairly obvious. It seems to me that you dont put out enough. Am I right?
I'm not even gonna snap, I don't think this ignorant ass comment is worth my time. You don't have any little sisters do you? What about a daughter?
livia24
07-29-2004, 06:38 PM
um..did i do something wrong...
BeckyB
07-29-2004, 07:05 PM
um..did i do something wrong...
no, like lil sis said, it's an ignorant comment.
um..did i do something wrong...
nah dont even worry about it...like cdawg said you have soem selfrespect and thats a good thing, trust me around here all my friends and myself(;)) would love to have a girl with some selfrespect, you know a nice decent girl you can bring home to mom...
MikeM
07-29-2004, 11:41 PM
um..did i do something wrong...
Yes. You dated guys that are only out for some ass. Ok, maybe thats not really your fault. :rolleyes:
RedRebel
07-30-2004, 03:29 PM
I dont know why nobody's said so yet, but the problem seems fairly obvious. It seems to me that you dont put out enough. Am I right?
:cool: :cool:
MikeM
07-31-2004, 10:12 AM
Off topic: Are there a bunch of posts missing from this thread, or did somebody up my dosage without notice?
GregBest
07-31-2004, 10:32 AM
cheating is about the dumbest thing going. it's like unwrapping a Twinkie, licking the pastic wrapper and throwing the rest away. How many Twinkie wrappers must you CONQUER before you REALLY feel fullfilled? Perhaps thousands, and you STILL won't get what you need. That Twinkie is made of a longer term connection - a connection that grows into like and love and respect, all of which makes for a differnt level of "Hot Twinkie Action" [if ya follow me here] that you can NEVER feel or achive just tasting the wrapper. then you can get SO USED to the wrapper, you forget the twinkie exists at all - and that's where you stay: homeless, jobless, twinkie-wrapper abusing, under bridge sleeping, friendless cheater: Twinkieless
Keep your Twinkies in check: do you want lots of empty wrappers or desire the fulfilling spongy cake? There really is a huge differnece, but you won't find it until you take the time to allow it to grow.
And I thought most people agree it's good to learn from history. It's SO SIMPLE to watch other's screw ups, let's say, oh I don't know... CHEATING... and see the pain, loss, anger, destruction it causes all involved. SO easy to avoid. Don't be a bumbass - discover the Twinkie
LiL SiS
07-31-2004, 04:21 PM
I like HoHos
gixxer_mark
07-31-2004, 05:11 PM
my wife discovered the twinkie AND it's creamy filling.... she keeps it in check for me....
GregBest
07-31-2004, 06:36 PM
I like HoHos
mmMMMMmmmmmmmm Hody-Ho-licious!!!! That's some F-I-N-E SUGAR there
firedawg7
08-01-2004, 08:15 AM
ok....this is bad i am only 15 and i have been cheated on twice this year....and both of the said the same thing....well its your own fault.... your the one cheated on me dick head....question why should i be the one to be blaimed here....
Girl BOYS are stupid as hell when they are 15. Some may say boys are stupid until the day they die. Blow them off! It's really not you it's them and don't think other wise. Don't change yourself because they are stupid! :D
livia24
08-03-2004, 01:10 PM
Off topic: Are there a bunch of posts missing from this thread, or did somebody up my dosage without notice?
i think there is some missing out of here to